Men Can Be Victims Too. Help End Domestic Violence.
October 2, 2008
Relationships with partners and families should be a source of mutual love and support. But for some people, these bonds can mean an endless cycle of fear and intimidation. When this happens, it’s called domestic violence, which, can happen to anyone, regardless of sex, race or status. It’s a pattern of behavior used by one person to establish power and control over another, and it can come in many forms [emotional, physical and sexual abuse].
-Emotional or psychological abuse- your partner, parent, adult child or loved one: insults and ridicule you, acts jealous and suspicious, threatens you, controls the finances, refusing to give you money or let you get a job.
-Physical abuse- your loved one: kick, hit, bite, slap, scratch, push or choke you; damage property when angry, threatens you with a weapon, drives recklessly to scare you, prevents you from leaving calling the police and seeking medical attention.
-Sexual abuse- your partner: views you as an object, insults you in sexual ways, held you down during sex, forced you to have sex, manipulated you into having sex, hurts or intimidates you with weapons or other objects during sex.
Men can be victims too. Women aren’t the only ones in abusive relationships. Men are also victimized by domestic violence. Infact, 16 percent of physical assaults against men are committed by an intimate partner. Men who are abused may: deny its happening, feel ashamed or guilty, think no one will believe it or that other people will ridicule them and tell themselves that they can handle it without help. Staying in an abusive relationship can have devastating consequences, including depression, substance abuse, loss of confidence and even suicide.
Deciding to leave can be difficult but always remember that resources are available to help you. Please make safety your top priority and tell someone what’s happening to you, ask for help, find out what laws apply, keep a journal of violent events, take pictures, go to a police, doctor or emergency room and report what happened to you, make financial plans, acquire a job and prepare a bag in advance to leave.
i want freshwater
July 15, 2008
dear aiden,
so i am unhappy today. i am mad at you for not doing as i say, when i say it. i don’t want to be the one who jumps at every beckon and call…. cuz i’m not all about being there for u. i wanted to hug u… and u didnt wanna cuddle. fine…. when i’m long gone…. you won’t have to worry. i wanted to stay close…. and i ended up in pain. why does it work out that way? compromise goes both ways?
i dunno. cuz all my compromises were one way streets…. compromising way tooo much or not at all. i want you to compromise also. i want this to work. i know about the two way fountain….. water in- water out… keeping water fresh… i know about the two way street… that enables both directions. i want that. compromise in it’s proper form. how can i get that? Read more
Cultural misunderstandings within West Indian Families
April 28, 2008
I am writing this piece in response to a conversation I had with a friend two nights ago regarding the lack of many West Indian parents being able to comprehend the lifestyle adjustments their children acclimate to as a critical part of survival process in the United States as per say to that in the Caribbean. Read more
Arranged Marriages for Children – The South Asian Culture – A Total Disgrace.
March 13, 2008
The system originated a long time ago when marrying at a juvenile age in India was thought of as being suitable and over the generations became an institution. Read more
Communication= Better Sex Life & Relationship.
October 9, 2007
At first glance, we all know, sex is important, and naturally we all hope to have a relationship that works, but what gets us there? Read more